Liar, Liar..or just creative story teller??

One beautiful day, about a year ago, my husband was working first shift, and the kids and I were going to meet him at work. Before meeting him, I needed to make a transaction at the bank that entailed me needing to go inside. The bank teller and I were having the usual small talk, but it all changed when she asked what we were doing next. My 5 year old looked at her and said in the saddest voice, I have ever heard from him, and says "my daddy is in prison", I don't know if my laughter was if I thought it was humorous or if it was the only reaction I had from being mortified..I think it was both. After vehemently announcing that my husband, Nate's father, is an outstanding citizen of this city and he works at a very well known Indy company and that is where he is at right now..I just couldn't stop all the adjectives describing the law abiding husband that is also the father of my children (I don't think the teller was buying my factual description of the hubs, in fact, Nate was so convincing, I almost believed him!). Driving to the hubs work, I began the slippery slope to thinking about other stories Nate has told, like telling his Grandma Peasley I didn't come visit with them because I was napping when I was really working, or saying to me that Ava said her first word when she was 3 months. Fast Forward a year and a half later, his stories have been getting more detailed: First day of kindergarten, he reports very excitedly that his teacher took the whole class to Disney world and each child sat next to Mickey on a bench, then, later in the year, he got sick at school, he told the school nurse that he got sick the night before and we made him go anyway (I am still bitter about that one..giving me a bad rep. with the school nurse just isn't cool!) I will never forget when I forgot to send his lunch with him to school, I came home to an angry husband, because Nate had the hubs convinced that the school would not give him a school lunch because he did not have lunch money, thankfully I called him on it and angry daddy did not make an appearance to school! And now the latest, the hubs works at Steak n Shake and we get to eat free because we are family (recently told to my friend who is watching him over the summer). I know this is all part of growing up and I am telling myself that he is just creative, I don't take it too seriously, (I do have FREQUENT serious talks with him about lying) unless it involves possibly getting the other person in the story in trouble. And a lot of it, I laugh at! But sometimes, if I think about it long enough, I begin to wonder what is he telling other adults about us, if the hubs is in prison (who follows every rule there is btw) then where am I or what am I in his  "creative thinking out loud" moments?? When he goes and visits over night with a friend, I am almost tempted to write a note to his friend's parents about the "real" us..taking it too far, right? I know,I know!  I will just send him off and hope he gets invited back..or we don't have authorities knocking on our door! I also start analyzing his story telling, is this a sign of a future criminal..or just a politician?? Yikes..let's not go there! For now, I will just remind my self  he is only 6 and just enjoy the entertainment his little head with a big brain provides.

Confessions of an Undomesticated Mommy

Hey there, folks! I do hope this is a beginning of something that will reach out to fellow mommies that are like me or even if they are just a little bit like me! Just a little about myself, I am a Christian and I do aspire for this blog to be honest, open AND most importanly, pleasing to God.I have two children, a 6 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. I am happily married to my best friend for over 7 years and we lead a simple life (not always by my choice, BTW!) I have been following one blog of a beautiful mom whose faith in God is strong and she seems to have it all together, almost like super mom. And often when I read her post and many others, I think to myself, wow, how does she do it and stay so positive and .OOh look at the pictures of her huge home, it is so spotless! And I found my self wanting to be that kind of mom, well, anyone who knows me knows that I just fall way short, I am no way graceful and let's face it, I am not a home maker my husband probably deserves. Tho I enjoy reading her posts and get great tips from her (and many others) I can no longer compare myself to her, and I don't think she wants that either. So here I am, the other mom that so many of us avoid being, but I know I am not the only one!
So let me introduce  the undomesticated Mommy in me: every day I tell my self, I will be the one to make dinner tonight, but by time I get home..usually well after 6pm, the hubs has it all ready, hot on the table..and I LIKE IT! I do not make my children eat food they dislike, when I first became a mom, I was the perfect mother, I had guidelines and rules...well, that all went out the window by time I was 5 months pregnant! My children slept in my bed, I let them (gasp) watch tv so I can get stuff done, and one of them thinks that trying new foods means trying a new flavor of ice cream, and some times..I am really great at "couch parenting". What is couch parenting you ask?? Well if you have to ask,good for you!! That means you have never done it and you may be appalled at me but I confess, on days that I am on my feet all day at work, and I am too exhausted to even care that I come home to my living room looking like Toys R Us dumped all their stuff in it, I have found my self in zombie mode..alert enough to know what my kids are doing, and only give yes/no answers as I let them watch PBS sprout or sometimes ICarly as I just veg out on the big comfy sofa. I admit, I do this probably once or twice a month, and I do feel guilty when I do it, but sometimes, it is all I can do for my kids and my self to keep the peace while the hubs is sleeping before he goes to work at 10:15pm.
Now I know my title is the Undomesticated Mommy, but I keep the house up, actually the hubs and I both do, I can honestly say we both do our share. I ALWAYS tuck my kids in at night and they both have a special routine with me before they nod off to slumber land. I frequently have their towels and pj's fresh out of the dryer when getting out of the bath tub, especially in the winter time. I just did this ever since they were babies and never realized how they appreciate (or expect it) when I forget to do it. So sometimes I have to remind my self that even tho our home is not extravagant,  and that I WILL step on a toy train/barbie shoe while putting kids to bed, that I do let my children know how important they are to us and how special they are before they go to sleep. So for that, I will give myself a pat on the back, knowing they will always know I love them at the end of the day, no matter what kind of day we had.